The journey is not easy

 Cutting all ties with a sibling is hard not matter how toxic they are.  The fact of the matter is there are good memories as well as bad.  Unfortunately, there are more bad.  It does not make it easier.

One thing about this sibling is that they do not take any responsibility for any of their actions.  No matter how horrible they are to someone, that person (in the TS mind) deserved what they got.  There is no accountability, no guilt, no care about their actions.  That is something I have a hard time understanding.  I could not do mean things to another person without a care in the world.

Does Karma work?  I feel like this sibling just gets away with mean behavior without consequence.  How can that be?  I mentioned to my daughter that I hope TS gets hit with the Karma bus.  Her response was, "Mom, they are living their karma!  They have a dysfunctional life with a spouse who literally hates them.  In addition, their kids only speak to them when they want money."  All true.  Is that Karma?

I saw a quote that resonated with me today.

Shitty people do nice things sometimes

True story.  I have to accept that there were some good things, but also remember there were more bad.

Some people just need drama!

 So it has been 46 days since I severed all ties with my toxic sibling.  Actually, I am not counting, I had to look it up.  Almost every day something new comes to light about the toxic drama they create.  I can listen, but I no longer have to be a participant.  That feels good.  The further I am away from the drama, the better it feels.

It is interesting that once you step away from someone toxic, others start to come forward with their stories.  While that person is in your life, others are silent.  I have come to realize that I am not the only one who sees how toxic and drama driven this person is.  They have done some really shady 💩. Sadly, I think they will end up a bitter, lonely person with no one willing to be around them.  I guess you reap what you sow.